Are there any secret or “magic” words you can use to make your ex return your call?  It does sounds hard to believe, but there ARE words that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex feel almost compelled to return your call.  Great news, right?  I am going to share this with you because this is one of the biggest questions received from people who are trying to put their relationships back together.

BUT – WARNING

If you use this technique alone, without an overall plan or strategy, you may do more damage than good to your relationship.  Check out the Magic of Making Up system for help with your game plan.

WHAT NOT TO SAY

First, we need to go over what NOT to say.  You shouldn’t waste time leaving a message that never works or puts you in an awful “psychological” position.  Those messages are “the plead” and “the emergency”.

The plead usually goes something like this:  “John, please, please call me.  This is the third time I’ve called and I HAVE to talk to you.”

The emergency usually goes along these lines:  “Cindy, this is an emergency.  Please call me as soon as you get this.”

I believe you know what is wrong with both of those approaches so let’s not dwell here and get on to what you came for.

HOW TO USE CURIOSITY AND SELF-INTEREST TO YOUR ADVANTAGE

Two of the most powerful forces in the human mind are curiosity and self-interest, and when you combine these two, you have a recipe that WORKS like magic.  Now, let’s look at what you can say that works nearly EVERY TIME.

In a friendly tone:

“Hi John, it’s Cindy.  I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me.  Call me because I want to thank you in person.”

Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity and self interest?  John will NOT be able to resist!  He’ll be thinking, “What did I do?  What does she appreciate?” and he feels good because it is a positive message.

But hold on just a second, before you call you need your “set up”.  Figure out what he/she did that you appreciate.  It can be any small thing, but it does need to be plausible.

But more importantly…

2ND WARNING

Please have an underlying game plan like the one laid out in the Magic Of Making Up system BEFORE you call.  If you apply this technique with no underlying strategy and they call you back, you can do more damage than good if you do not handle it correctly.

Okay?

What I am saying is that what you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is MORE important than getting them to return your call.

Make sense?

Have a PLAN!

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