Before we talk about ways to get back at your ex, let’s talk a little bit about relationships.  Relationships are delicate connections that must be fed and nourished in order to keep them healthy and allow them to flourish.  Without proper care, the bond  grows tired and weary, just as your physical body does without the correct nutrition, and begins to break down.

Unfortunately, even in the best of situations, breakups and separations do occur.  They are nerve wracking, stressful and frustrating.  If you have recently been involved in a breakup, you may be thinking that you want to get back at your ex, but is this really the best step to take?

One of the most influential ways that you can actually get back at your ex will not only put your ex in an interesting predicament, but it may also repair the relationship by showing your ex how important you were and are to them.  So not only are these 5 tips an excellent way to get back at your ex, but they are also a wonderful strategy to get your ex back.

1.  BE STRONG

Needy people are exasperating.  Don’t beg, cling or exhibit the behavior of someone who is desperate.  By being strong and allowing your ex to believe you have moved on just fine without them, your ex will realize that he/she has not.

2.  MINIMIZE CONTACT

Closing the doors of communication may appear counter-intuitive when your main objective is to ensure their thoughts are on you, but it is one of the most important steps when getting back at, or with, your ex.  So sit back, take a break, shut down communications, and allow your ex to stew for a little while without any contact.  This will allow your ex to clear his or her mind and realize just how important you are.

3.  BE FLEXIBLE

Don’t be demanding with your ex, such as requiring them to move out or pick up their things by a certain date.  This will only infuriate him/her.  Be flexible, listen, and sympathize.  Not only will it perplex your ex, considering the circumstances, but it just might motivate them to build the lines of communication that were lacking and led to the breakup.

4.  HAVE FUN

This is no time to be alone.  Call your friends and get out of the house.  Enjoy some entertainment.  This doesn’t mean you need to date, or even flirt for that matter, just get out and have a little fun with your friends.  Not only will this be therapeutic for you, but it will also help convince your ex that they lost a gem.

5.  BE YOU

Do you remember who you were at the beginning of the relationship?  Find you again, your ex will remember that person as well and possibly fall in love all over again.

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