The world is inundated with strategies to help you get your ex back, bring back lost love, or however you want to word it, but is any of it any good? Thankfully, yes. There are a few good tactics out there and you just have to learn to discern the good from the bad.

Some will argue that anything will work, under the right the conditions, and while that may be true, I highly doubt you are interested in trying out all those one-trick ponies just to see if they’ll work. Most likely, you are ready to see conclusion of this trial and get your love back in your arms yesterday.

So let’s take a look at some of these approaches and discuss what makes them a “go” or “no.”

1.         Time and Space

This is a definite go. Think about it. Regardless of who did the “breaking up” both parties are feeling some anger, resentment, and/or just pure aggravation. I don’t know about you, but when I’m in that type of mood and somebody won’t leave me alone I just want to push them down and knock them out. I guess it’s a good thing I don’t act on those feelings – and neither should you (smile). Just step back, get cooled off a bit and give your love that same opportunity. Truces are made when cooler heads prevail.

Now that everyone has had a moment to think, where do we go from here?

2.         Be Aggressive

This one could go either way. If you decide to take this path, you should really know that a permanent farewell isn’t what your girlfriend or boyfriend really has in mind. This route allows you to push just a little more, but you still have to toe the line so you don’t push too far. Doing so could ruin not only your chances to bring back lost love, but also the chances of keeping a friend.

3.         Be Prudent

This is the safest route. Prudent is defined as wise, sensible in action and thought. Quite dignified, is it not?

This path allows the two of you to rebuild your friendship first and then progressing into the category of “lovers” once again. On this path, there is no need to rush or run. Just stroll along enjoying the good company and scenery.

The problem with taking the prudent path is that it seems to slightly lower the probability of romantic success because there are fewer chances for change. However, the aggressive route has such a high potential for backfire that it can blow everything out of the water. So if you want to ensure at least some sort of relationship, whether friendship or more, the conservative path of prudence is the most reliable.

IN CONCLUSION, you just really have to figure out what you want and what you are willing to risk.

While most relationships CAN be saved, there are a few that probably shouldn’t be. Some people are wonderful friends but awful lovers. Some people shouldn’t really even be in the same state, much less be involved in a relationship. Then there are those who are not only the best of friends, but the best of lovers as well. Which category do you two fit into? Answering this question can help you decide which path to take in your quest to bring back lost love.

“I thought we broke up. Why are you still calling me?”

Sound familiar?  Wondering what’s going on?  Sounds like someone is still interested and not quite ready to let things go yet, even if they are the one who broke it off.

Why Does My Ex Still Call Me?

By: Anthony Malibu

Does your phone still ring, with your ex calling you even after breaking up?  This is a lot more common than you might think, especially in today’s world of text-messages, Facebook, and constant daily contact.  But what does it mean?  Why is your ex still trying to get in touch with you, even though you’re no longer dating?

In most cases, post-breakup communication is a definite sign of interest.  Your ex hasn’t completely let go of you yet, and he or she is keeping one or two lines of communication open so they can keep tabs on you.  Your ex might not be ready to move on yet, but more importantly they don’t want YOU to move on.  Despite their assertions that such phone calls are nothing more than friendly hellos to see how you’re doing, your ex boyfriend or girlfriend has a much more hidden agenda.

You need to understand that when two people break up, feelings continue.  Emotional bonds that took months or years to develop aren’t severed overnight.  Your ex has the same loving memories of good times and past experiences together that you do, and he or she is not yet willing to let them go.  Even further, your ex is probably scared with the prospect of you moving on before they do.

So yes, your ex broke up with you.  And no, they might not be ready to get back together… at least, not yet anyway.  But for now, your ex is looking to keep tabs on where you are and what you’re doing.  He or she will use every means necessary to keep you hanging around, but at the same time they’ll use these tools to maintain a healthy distance.  Intermittent phone calls filled with small talk aren’t so innocent: they’re designed to keep track of who you’re with and what you’re up to.  Myspace or Facebook contact is also made to see which activities and people you’ve been occupying your time with.

In essence, any time your ex boyfriend or girlfriend keeps calling you after the breakup, it’s because he or she isn’t over you yet.  There’s no other excuse to stay in touch (especially not the “let’s be friends” nonsense), other than because your ex hasn’t fully gotten used to the idea of you not being around.  Even though they broke things off, your ex still wants you in their life.  And as long as this is true, there are methods and techniques you can use to easily draw them back in.

Your ex was a huge part of your life, right?  Well so were you a huge part of theirs.  If you were to distance yourself your ex would start missing you very much, which is why he or she keeps reaching out and sending you these mixed signals.  They don’t want you back just yet, but they don’t want you to go away either.  So the best course of action?  Taking an even bigger step back, so your ex can miss you even more.

If you’ve been trying to get your boyfriend or girlfriend back, you may have been walking the wrong path.  The closer you keep to this person, the further you are from reconciliation.  Only by creating some distance and space between the two of you can you start making your ex want you back.  Not taking a few of their phone calls and not answering a couple of their text-messages can go a long way toward turning the tables and putting the ball in your court for once.

About the Author

There are 8 Individual Steps that will help Get Back Your Ex Girlfriend… or in the case of an ex boyfriend, check out the step by step process at How To Get Your Boyfriend Back. When your ex still calls you it’s time to interpret those mixed signals before making your move.


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