Archive for September, 2010

Get Wife Back: Second Chance Dating


Okay, you cheated and messed up royally, but really want to get that second chance with your wife. You had better get ready to wine and dine her like never before. Since you messed up royally, you’re going to have to treat her like royalty in order to have her falling madly in love and looking forward to seeing you again.  You’re going to have to be more romantic than you ever dreamed of and those dates are going to have to be bigger and better than anything she ever dreamed of.

Great Date Idea for Second Chance Romance After Cheating

You may have wanted to sweep your wife off her feet the first time around but second chance dating after you’ve cheated needs to be bigger, better, and much more romantic than anything you tried the first time around. Here are a few great ideas that might help get you out of the dog house and back in your wife’s good graces.

1) Take her on a hot air balloon ride and picnic. This is one date that many women have always felt would be the epitome of romance but few women have been fortunate enough to experience. Give her this date and she’s likely to be putty in your hands. At the very least she’ll be thinking about it for quite a while and looking forward to the next time she sees you. Really, it’s better than fine dining in a tower restaurant. You can’t beat the view and the price tag is probably about the same.

2) Go star gazing. Not parking like the local teens do but actually star gazing. Pack a picnic (cheese, fruit, wine or cider) and head out for a gorgeous view of the stars. Remember the further away you are from a big city the bigger the canopy of stars appears to be. Bring your telescope, a constellation guide, and a nice blanket for comfort and/or warmth.

3) A moonlit cruise. You can find sailing cruises for short distances, dinner cruises that promise romance, or you can borrow a boat and go for a moonlit sail on the local lake. The point is to get out on the water and away from the worries of life on shore for a while. There’s something about being on the water that just seems to melt away the weight of the world and can even help you both forget about the weight of your affair that lingers between the two of you.

4) Go dog sledding. This only works if you live in the appropriate climate but can be an amazing date. It’s cold enough that snuggling is a necessity and not an option. It gives you both the opportunity to see some of the best stuff Mother Nature has to offer and it really gives you a chance to talk about the past and make plans for a future together. It’s also another one of those trips that not everyone gets to do so she’ll remember it well and often. If you’re not in the appropriate climate an extended carriage or trail ride could be a fitting substitute.

The goal is to get your ex back and save your marriage. It might seem more like mission impossible at the moment but these great date ideas are sure to help you along.

Of course you have to get the date first. Watch this free video: http://www.magicofmakingup.com to find out how to get her to say yes to your date request.

NOTE: Video mentioned can also be seen in the “Get Help Now” section of this site.

Affair Recovery: Will He Cheat Again


An affair really places things in a whole new perspective and causes you to doubt your partner in a lot of areas. Will he cheat again? Before answering that question you need to truthfully answer this one: Can you forgive him for cheating? If not, then the answer to the previous question has no bearing because there will always be doubt. However, if the answer is yes, read on to gain a better understanding of where you stand and/or may need to do.

How Can I Believe He Will Not Cheat Again?

My husband cheated and it really turned my world upside down. How can I believe he will not cheat again? I don’t know if I can handle going through this another time?

It’s a question that is far too common among women these days and also one that has no easy answers. The bottom line is that you’re going to have to make a few tough decisions based on what you know about your husband. Or rather, these decisions should be based on what you knew about your husband before you found out he was cheating.

Here are a few questions you can ask yourself that will help you decide whether giving your husband a second chance after cheating is worth the risk or it is truly time to end the marriage and walk away.

1) Did you find your husband to be a man of his word before you knew he was cheating? You’ve known your husband for quite a while. Did you believe what he told you before the lies to cover up his cheating began? Cheating sort of changes the ball game to some degree and his actions while cheating are not the actions of the man you married. They were an attempt to hold on to or save your marriage instead. Keep that in mind as you consider what your next move will be.

2) Do you believe you can forgive him for cheating this time? It really doesn’t matter whether he’ll cheat again or not if you aren’t absolutely certain you can move beyond the fact that he cheated this time for the sake of saving your marriage. If you can’t forgive this instance of your husband cheating on you it doesn’t matter what you can or cannot believe about the likelihood of his cheating in the future.

3) What would he do in your shoes? You know your husband better than anyone. What do you think he would believe if you were the one who cheated on him? Do you believe he’d be willing to accept your word that you wouldn’t cheat again? Can you extend the same faith in him that he would give to you? Can you do better?

4) Is there one good reason you have to hold on to the marriage you have with your husband despite the risk? In the end, there are no guarantees that he won’t cheat again. There is only the two of you and the strength of the love you have for each other. Is that love enough to do whatever it takes, by both of you, to make sure that you can save your marriage and prevent him from cheating again?

Guarantees are great but there really are few that are available when it comes to efforts to get your ex back or save your marriage after cheating.

There is one guarantee you can depend on. You have to get the conversation started for real healing to begin. Sometimes you need a little help. Watch this free video to see what you can do to get started: http://www.getyourexbacknow.com/just_break_up3.html.

Save Your Marriage

Conflict Resolution After Infidelity: Is It Possible?


Resolving conflict is a tough row to hoe to begin with, but when you add infidelity to the soil, it can at times seem impossible. However, there is hope. The few steps outlined below will help soften the ground and make it a little easier to churn, setting you on the path to a full harvest.

Better Ways to Resolve Conflicts in Your Marriage After Cheating

Conflict resolution may have never been the strong suit of either party in your marriage. Now that cheating has become a problem in the marriage, it is going to need to become a strong suit for one or both of you. Here are a few ways to resolve conflicts in your marriage after cheating that are productive and can actually leave you both feeling better after the conflicts ends instead of worse.

How many times has something like this happened in your house?

He says: “What’s up with the soup? It tastes a little off tonight?”

She responds: “What do you mean you hate my cooking? You’ve never had a problem with it in the past! Did she cook better for you? Is that what you’re saying? That she’s a better cook?”

And bam-mo! Suddenly World War 7 has broken out in the middle of your dining room and it doesn’t look like anyone is going to be taking prisoners.

It’s probably a familiar story.

There has to be a better way, right?

There is!

1) Learn to let some things go. It’s not only about being touchy in arguments but also in bringing up things from the past. If you want arguments and disagreements to be productive you’re going to have to limit them to the topic at hand and not bring up old unresolved issues every time an argument happens. If they are a problem then you need to resolve those issues sometime when you’re not having a disagreement over something unrelated.

2) Stop escalating the fight. How many wars could have been won without nearly as much bloodshed and needless loss of life had cooler heads prevailed and no escalations occurred from the very beginning? Stop taking it to the next level or making the argument about more than it is really about.

3) Leave the past in the past. Arguments can’t be productive for either of you if you are too busy digging up bones to face the problems you’re having in the here and now. Stop living in the past and look toward the future even with your arguments.

4) Learn to lose so you both can win. Stop fighting to win the fight and start fighting to save your marriage. That is very well what this could come down to. It’s not nearly as important to win the fight if you lose the love of your life as a result.

Making up after cheating can be difficult. It is possible to get your ex back at a time like this but it’s a good idea to have an effective game plan in place before trying.

Watch this free video: http://www.magicofmakingup.com for help mapping out your winning game plan today.

Are you the one who did the cheating or the one cheated on?

NOTE: Video mentioned can also be seen in the “Get Help Now” section of this site.

T Dub Jackson – Does His System Work?

TW (T Dub) Jackson


Who is he? Should I care? Mr. Jackson is the author of The Magic of Making Up, a self-help guide in the area of bringing back lost love (or the right way to make up so you can get your ex back). The accompanying piece is just a small article with a few blurbs about Mr. TW Jackson, his experience in the field of relationships, and the efficiency of his system.

T Dub Jackson – Does His System Work?

By: Lisa Ringe

The Magic of Making Up is a popular guide for “how to get your ex back”.  Does it really work?

WHAT IS THE IDEA BEHIND THE BOOK?

T.W. Jackson is the writer of the Magic of Making Up.  He is an everyday guy who, during his time in the military, was exposed to many cultures across the globe.  Over those years, he was also witness to the relationship issues among his military colleagues, where the divorce rate is known to be very high.

During the military years, Jackson says he developed a unique sense of how relationships fall apart and what can prevent it.

The focus of the guide is how to see past the emotional drama of a break-up. By doing this you are able to see the situation rationally and calmly.  This is your best hope, says Jackson, of pinpointing the real issues and to find a solution.

Even if only one of you knows the right things to do and say, Jackson says that almost any breakup can be stopped.  The manual presents numerous ways to help you move past the drama and lot of techniques to re-start healthy communication.

DOES IT ACTUALLY WORK?

Some of the approaches in the Magic of Making Up are common-sense while others are outside the box approaches you likely have never thought of.  They can be amazingly powerful if you apply them sincerely.

By applying carefully what Jackson says, you can quickly get a “bird’s eye view” of the real causes of your fighting.  Small shifts in perspective and behavior that you may not have thought of can have a huge difference.

IS IT A GOOD FIT FOR EVERYONE?

No it is not.  An abusive relationship requires immediate professional assistance.

As well, if you are the type of person who needs an outside person to guide and motivate you to act, a professional counsellor is probably a better choice for you.  The material in The Magic of Making Up is easy to understand and is powerful, but you must provide the follow-through and motivation to act yourself.

If you are sincere about wanting to fix your relationship and will commit to ACTING on the information, Magic of Making Up can give you some very powerful tools.

Get instant access to the Magic of Making Up at => Magic of Making Up

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Bring Back Lost Love

Believing that your love has come to an end is often one of the most difficult situations to go through. However, if you still have hope and are interested in trying to bring back lost love, you need to have a plan. The step-by-step strategy below is designed to help you diminish further damage to the relationship and truly assess whether reviving it is worth the risk and effort.

7 Step System To Get Your Ex Back And Rebuild Your Relationship

By: Eve Collins

The end of a relationship is one of the most painful and often confusing experiences of our lives. We nearly all go through it at some point, but virtually no one knows what to do when faced with a break up – it just isn’t something we learn along the way.

This system will give you a strategy for getting your ex back. It breaks the process down step by step. You will learn to recognize how your own actions appear to your ex, and how changing what you do can change how your ex thinks about you.

Step 1 – Take the heat off

When the other person has ended the relationship and moved on, it’s common to feel things are out of control. The natural reaction is to try to get control back, but we don’t know how. We often end up obsessing about what we have lost and end up doing all the wrong things, so that we drive our ex further away, even though that’s the last thing we want.

The first priorities when dealing with a break up that you want to mend are to limit the damage that has been done and to stop doing things that can make things worse.

Because we desperately want to keep the relationship going, we often resort to pleading, begging, and trying to put pressure on the other, and this typically leads to fighting and more unhappiness. Instead of helping to keep the relationship together, this kind of behavior only pushes your ex further away.

If you find yourself pleading, nagging or doing things like texting all the time, constantly checking for emails and phone calls that never come, or hanging out where you expect your ex to show up so you can confront them, then it is very important to stop this.

An important step that will help you find calm and set yourself up for the long process of getting your ex back is to accept the breakup.

This might seem to be the opposite of what you should do, because what you want is to get back together. You have to take a long term view. Think of your plan to get your ex back as a process with many stages and steps. The first step is to stop making things worse, and fighting with someone who wants to break up with you by trying to make them stay is only driving them further away.

Agree instead that breaking up is the right thing to do, and you have made an important shift. Now you and your ex agree about something! Remember, this is only the first step. Your ultimate goal is to get your ex to decide that getting back together is what they really want. It begins by accepting the break up so you can prepare for the next steps.

Step 2 – Assess the relationship and its potential

Almost every relationship is salvageable so there is always reason to be hopeful, but a lot depends on your ex and their situation. Of course, there can be many reasons for a relationship to end, and sometimes it isn’t because of any really problematic behavior.

Especially in younger couples, it can simply be a matter of getting the balance right between preserving your own space and smothering your partner with too much attention.

With this in mind, take a realistic look at whether this relationship is one you can and want to save.

First you must ask yourself why you want to get your ex back. Is it because you truly love this person as they are, or are you in love with who they could be, or with the idea of who you want them to be in your life?

Remember, changing how your ex sees you is the goal, and even if they are cold and distant now, or if they seem to have moved on with someone else, you may still be able to get your ex back by showing them that things are different, and giving them time to come around.

Step 3 – Show your sympathetic side, and consider an apology

A heartfelt apology can do wonders to encourage forgiveness and healing – In the right circumstances. You must gauge whether your ex will be receptive to your apology, because if you get it wrong it will only make things worse.

The keys are to know why you are apologizing, and to be sincere about it. If you are not truly sorry, it will be obvious and your apology will really be more of an insult, because it shows you don’t really care – you are just using your apology as a way to get what you want.

It will make a tremendous difference to show sympathy toward your ex. Make it your top priority to avoid fighting and instead find ways to create agreement. If you can get on the same side about something – even some small thing – you are moving away from discord and positioning yourself as an ally for your ex instead of an opponent. The agreement on the decision to break up we looked at in step 1 is an important example of this.

Being understood creates a very powerful feeling of connection to the other person. Show your ex you understand and sympathize with them, and you will almost certainly change how they think about you. They may even start to wonder if they are making the right decision to end the relationship.

Step 4 – Cut off communication

For the time being, do not make any effort to contact your ex. When you cut off communication you create space for some “thinking time”. It may seem counter-intuitive, but by cutting communication off you are signaling that you have already moved on and that you are doing just fine.

People often want what they can’t have, and if your ex thinks they can no longer have you, this alone can be enough to turn them around and start to want to get back together.

So, make yourself scarce. If your ex contacts you, be ready to engage with them in a friendly, sympathetic way, but maintain a little distance and keep it that way.

It takes time for this process to work, and jumping back in at the first sign of encouragement can destroy all hopes of recovering your relationship.

Step 5 – Return to a life of your own

Your aim is to get your ex to fall in love with you again, and since people are drawn to happy people it makes sense to find ways to appear happy, even if you might not always feel it inside. When you can find happiness in your situation you will make yourself much more attractive to others.

Make the effort to connect with old friends, get out of your usual surroundings, try new hobbies or sports. Enjoy life!

This actually paves the way for you to find new relationships, if that’s what you want, and gives you the power to choose whether or not you still want to get back together with your ex. Surprisingly, this in itself can be a powerful advantage in reviving a broken relationship.

Here is an important guideline: don’t try to catch attention by making your ex jealous. It could possibly work sometimes, but is just as likely to backfire and end things for good.

Simply be yourself. There was a really good reason for why you and your ex had a relationship to begin with, so go back to being yourself and you will help your ex remember why they loved you in the first place. Your renewed self perception will likely make your ex look at you with new eyes.

Step 6 – Be honest with yourself, and correct your faults

If you can point to one specific thing that caused your breakup you must be prepared to change that. If there was a series of events that eventually tipped your ex over the edge, you may first need to unravel the real problems so you know what to focus on.

Apply the golden rule: if you wouldn’t tolerate a certain behavior from your partner, why would you expect them to tolerate it in you?

Whatever the root problems are, working on overcoming your faults is simply the price of being in harmony with your ex.

You have to remember that if you manage to get back together with your ex without correcting your underlying problems, whatever they are, then your reconciliation will only be temporary. To make the relationship permanent the change has to be permanent.

Step 7 – Set the stage for getting back together

Knowing when the time is right to commit yourself to being together again is difficult, because most of us are so intent on recovering the relationship and making things work that we jump at the first sign that things might be on the mend.

As you complete the other steps in the process look for signs of warmth, connectedness and encouragement from your ex. Be happy if you see them, but take it slow. Be available, but don’t open up completely just yet. Don’t be tempted to see one small gesture of acceptance as a sign that they are ready to be persuaded once and for all.

Let your ex be the one to say they want you back, and make sure they really mean it when it happens.

And when it does happen – Congratulations! Getting back with an ex you thought you had lost is one of life’s sweetest experiences.

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Famous Love Quotes

I think I may post this one in my home.  It is so very, very true.

“Too often we under estimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around”. – Leo Buscaglia

Famous Love Quotes

By: David

Famous Love Quotes

Love is like flower which blooms at least once in everybody’s life, this is the time when one feels on the seventh heaven and ninth cloud. When you fall in love it is very obvious you would like to express or pour your heart out for the one who rules your heart. The famous love quotes express the deepest feeling which mere words cannot do it. These can be added in your love letters, can be send as text message through your cell phone and will strike the arrow of cupid to the one whom you are madly in love with.

Love is such an expression which has no restriction of age. Anybody can express their love either a teenager to his girlfriend or an eighty year old man to his wife. One person in love can understand another person’s feeling and the emotions he is going through and these emotions give birth to love quotes and speak volume of about those who are enjoying this bliss. A lot is written about different subject like life, happiness, sorrows, death, vices and virtues but what remains favorite is the subject love.

“At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet “is a famous love quote by Plato it is very true as and when the person falls in love all his feelings come out in the form of poem. Love quotes can be in any language but the feeling remains the same. It is not easy to define love but these quotes describe every mood of it. It is very true when Henry Ward Beecher says, “I never knew how to worship until I knew how to love”. Like the image of god you worship your love,

Some quotes are elaborate and have the complete essence of the expression of love. Like Houssaye says “tell me whom you love and I will tell you who are you” the person to whom you love show the kind of person you are. “Love is like a mustard seed; planted by God and watered by men.” This quote depicts the intense feeling and his involvement in love and maturity to understand this feeling. While some quotes are very zesty and striking. “I was nauseous and tingly all over. I was either in love or I had smallpox.” – Woody Allen

It doesn’t matter if you are newly fallen in love or bask in the glory and passion of love you can include such quotes either in your e-card or valentine cards and cherish your love. There are some quotes with the tinge of humors, which gives an opportunity for both the lover and the beloved to smile and brings joy and fun in your relationship. “I married the first man I ever kissed. “When I tell this to my children, they just about throw up.” – Barbara Bush. “We don’t believe in rheumatism and true love until after the first attack.” – Marie E. Eschenbach, the humor in the quote will the romantic and humor side like the one in “Gravitation can not be held responsible for people falling in love.” – Albert Einstein You can send these quotes along with beautiful red rosés to express the most beautiful expression , that is “LOVE”

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Your Ex Wants to Still Be Friends – Great, There’s Your First Hook

You’ve just been dumped, BUT your ex still wants to be friends.  Are they just being nice?  That could be it, but most likely, they still want to have a foot in the door.  In other words, your ex isn’t quite ready to completely walk away.  They’re still holding on to something.

Your Ex Wants to Be Friends – Why It’s a Good Sign

By: Anthony Malibu

“But we can still be friends, right?”

It sounds so good and wholesome when your ex says it.  As if everything’s gonna be alright, despite the fact that you just got dumped.

Reluctantly, you agree.  Right now, any future contact with your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend sounds good.  After all, you don’t want to lose them forever.  And by staying friends, maybe you can work your way back up to being their boyfriend or girlfriend again.  By staying in close proximity to your ex, they’ll eventually see how much they love you and ask you to come back.  Being friends with your ex sounds like a direct shortcut through all this breakup nonsense and straight back to reconciliation.  Right?

Well… if only it were that easy.

The bad news is you just got dumped.  Your ex might’ve been letting you down gently by offering to stay friendly after the breakup.  More likely however, your ex wants to be friends because they still want to leave the door to the relationship slightly open – and this is a good sign.

Understand that just as breaking up is very hard on you, it’s also going to be hard on your boyfriend or girlfriend.  Even though they ended things, your ex still has feelings and emotions that make them very attached to you.  Making the decision to break things off doesn’t mean those feelings just disappear into thin air, but it does mean that your ex probably put those emotions aside in an attempt to move on without you.  In that respect, your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend has a slight head start.

Wanting to be friends however, allows your ex to let go of you very gradually.  Instead of losing you all at once, your ex puts him or herself into the very comfortable position of walking away… little by little… while still knowing where you are, what you’re doing, and most important of all: how much you’re still sweating them.  It’s comforting for your ex to realize they can have you back at a moment’s notice.  It’s easy for your ex to break up with you knowing that, as his or her new friend, you’re always going to be in plain sight.

This is why, right after your ex dumps you, you’ll need to refuse to be friends with them.  And not only that, but you have to walk coolly away from the relationship as if you really don’t care anymore.

“Sorry, I can’t be friends with you.  I love you as a girlfriend (or boyfriend), and that’s not going to change.  I can’t pretend to not have those feelings for you, while hanging around as your buddy.  Good luck with everything, but I’ve got to go my own way.”

Imagine saying those words to your ex – whether you’ve already agreed to be their friend or not.  Visualize it.  Put the whole scene in your head, and run through it a few times.  What do you think your ex will say?  Even better, what do you think they’ll feel?

Your ex wanted to be friends with you for a very simple reason – they weren’t completely over the relationship just yet.  By doing things this way, you’ve essentially just broken things off yourself.  You’re walking away and going on with your own life, while leaving your ex in the dust.  You’ve rejected them.

This is an amazing way of getting back on your ex’s mind, and to make them question the break up.  Your boyfriend or girlfriend’s head will be spinning when you tell them exactly why you can’t be friends with them.  As they struggle to come up with reasons you should keep in touch, you’re suddenly not answering your phone… or your email… or your text-messages.  Now imagine your ex getting suddenly desperate to be back in touch with you, after not having heard from you for a couple of days.

When it comes to getting your ex back, you just can’t do it from a position of friendship.  You can’t just wing it either – you need a step-by-step blueprint for success.  Knowing what to say, how to say it, and exactly when you should be approaching your ex boyfriend or girlfriend can mean the difference between putting them back in your arms or losing them for good.  Learning just the right methods and techniques for winning your ex back will almost always result in reconciliation, even when your ex just wants to be friends with you.

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There are 8 Individual Steps that will Get Back Your Ex Girlfriend… or in the case of an ex boyfriend, Win your Boyfriend Back. Don’t settle for being friends with an ex when what you really want is a long-term, lasting relationship!

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Survive the Affair and Be Happy Again

Survive the Affair and Be Happy Again


Going through the pain and agony caused by the betrayal of your spouse can be quite difficult.  However, if you want to save the marriage, the following article is a small step in providing the encouragement and direction you need.  One of the hardest steps will be trying to not focus on the act of infidelity, but learning to move on so that you can have a happy future. Cheating and infidelity are not always the be-all end-all death nail to a marriage. Marriage was intended and can be forever.

How To Be Happy Again After Cheating And Infidelity – Advice From The Love Coach

By: Carolin Dahlman The Love Coach

A few years ago I happened to pass by my boyfriend’s phone when it was ringing and I saw a girl’s name appear on the screen. At 11pm. I then realised how often he took his phone with him into the bathroom or how he got text messages without spontaneously telling me who they were from. It was a painful period, and of course it turned out he had another girl in his life… Now they live together and I’m happy in my love life, but it still hurts when I’m thinking of it. The fighting, worrying, wondering. The lies.

Me and the guy broke up and moved on, but sometimes infidelity is just an interruption in an otherwise happy relationship. It’s most times hard or impossible to justify or understand, but if the life you have together is larger than a drunken incident or a moment of inhibitions, you might give love a chance.

Some advice, if you want to save your marriage or relationship, are:

-      Cheating is external: See the cheating as a big black demon coming into your relationship. It doesn’t matter who was responsible for the act; both of you are hurt and damaged; one is feeling betrayed and the other ashamed. But the problem is best treated if it’s seen as something outside of the relationship that both of you have to fight off, move on from and leave it behind.

-      No blame game: If you don’t see the cheating as a shared problem, the post cheating phase can easily turn into a blame game where you play “victim and criminal”. If you keep on dwelling the past, you will be trapped in the negative emotions and memories. If you spend your time and energy finding ways to be happy from now on, it will be easier to move on.

-      How to move on? This means it is important that you don’t try to find answers or explanations for what happened if there are no rational reasons. Human beings are not always acting smart and we don’t always act according to our values. Sometimes we get carried away and loose control. Only look at the answer to the question “why did it happen?” if you also answer “How can we prevent it from happening again? Accept that the dark demon came in to your life and that you want a brighter future. The good guys win.

-      A new promise: Trust is the key to move on. You need to promise each other that you want to be together full on. You want to love and be loved. You want to be a team – strong and happy together. Tell your partner what you like about your relationship and listen to them. Trust doesn’t come from “I will never do this again”, but from “I want to love YOU and create a good life together”. Cheating and infidelity is very selfish. It can’t be justified. The cheater hurts other people, and if you have children you betray them too. But if you and your spouse seriously want to fix things between you, you seriously have to let go of the past. Create a new contract between you. Sit down, hug and kiss, and make promises and plans around these areas:

-      What will make you feel loved?

-      How can I make you happy?

-      What can I do in my life or my own personal development to make our relationship happier?

-      Can we spend more time together, give more compliments, have more sex, go out more with friends etc…?

As a love coach I prefer to give you some more questions, rather than giving advice. The best advice comes from within you. When you are aware of your feelings and understand the situation, you will know what to do.

-      Can I choose to trust my loved one?

-      What do I need (words, promises, attitude, new routines) to be able to trust my partner?

-      Can I get that?

-      If I can’t get it, can I still trust?

-      What does my partner need from me to feel happy in the relationship?

Bitterness and grief is a choice. Happiness and moving on is another. It’s up to you. Yes, it is that easy.

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Are you singing and identifying with the words to George Strait’s “I know she still loves me, but I don’t think she likes me anymore”? Then it is time to unleash the creative romantic within and bring back lost love.

Now don’t start with the old tired excuses of “I don’t have the time” or “I don’t know how” because that’s all they really are – excuses.  It doesn’t always take a lot of time or imagination. It really is the small things, like an unexpected little kiss on the nape of the neck or those crazy little titles of endearment like dear or love, that have the furthest stretch for their cost.

Do you know the definitions for creative and romantic? Creative is simply having the ability or power to create and romantic is relating to romance, which is simply a love affair. So even if you create a mess while trying to be sweet, it’ll work in your favor as the adage “it’s the thought that counts” really does apply.

All right, so now you get that you can do this, but need a few ideas to springboard from. Well, candy and roses are the traditional “romantic” gifts, but sometimes it just isn’t quite what you’re looking for. Next time, try getting flowers that have petals (pick some wildflowers for extra credit) and playing “He loves me, he loves me not”. Before handing the flowers over, you may want to count the petals and make sure there is an odd number so you don’t have the wrong ending.

Want to get crafty? No worries, no skill required. Do you remember what the symbol for infinity (never ending) looks like? It is shaped similar to a skinny eight lying on its side. Take a piece of ribbon or paper or whatever you can find and write the words “I love you forever” up and down both sides. Connect the ends together with a piece of tape or staples or what have you to form a loop. Connect the loop in the middle and twist to form a figure eight. Now you have a symbol to portray your undying love.

Sometimes all that is missing is the mood. Oh no, there’s a power outage! (Do you tell your love it was man created? I’ll let you decide.) What are you to do, just sitting there in the dark with nothing to distract you? I think you can take it from here.

So see, it’s not that hard and a romantic gift isn’t always material or expensive. Grab your love and dance to the radio, especially if it’s that special song. If you don’t have a special song, get one. Songs and poetry are the long time favorites of hopeless romantics. These few ideas should help get the creative juices flowing, so get busy and bring back lost love.

George Strait – I Know She Still Loves Me